There’s nothing that makes you feel more alone than the hype surrounding Valentine’s Day. That’s not to say there aren't plenty of true, loving relationships to celebrate, but there are also millions of people who have either chosen to go it solo or find themselves there through mysterious twists of fate or failed relationships.
Regardless of whether you are partnered or not, the internal relationship you have is what sustains you. No other person can ever be enough in a partnership, the primary relationship must be with yourself. .And in the words of the great drag diva Ru Paul, “How the hell you gonna’ love somebody else if you don’t love yourself first.” Can I get an Amen on that?
One of the first and most important steps in finding a successful loving partnership is to become whole and complete within, without a mate. If you are out looking for love in order to fulfill a longing inside, you are coming from a point of lack. And with the way the Law of Attraction works, most likely you will attract someone who is also looking for someone to fill the void in their life. Two empty halves don’t always make a whole, usually just more emptiness. If the person you are drawing to you can’t fill their own loneliness, they certainly aren’t going to help with yours. Thus the importance of becoming complete before broadcasting for a partner.
Filling the void can only sustainably happen if you do it yourself. This comes through self-nurturing, healing old emotional wounds and having a divine connection-a link to something greater than yourself. When we look to God, a higher power, nature or whatever your choice is, a connection is made that far outweighs anything you could possibly have on earth.
Excellent relationships are made when both parties tend to their own connection with the Divine and come to the partnership whole and complete. Someone who is connected is independent, yet able to be with someone else. Secure in being alone or together. If you are finding yourself in a relationship where you are depending on the other person to make you happy, watch out, it may be time to take an inwards look and see what is missing in your life.
This Valentine’s Day…treat yourself, you deserve it!
The Well of Roswell is hosting a variety of workshops specifically designed to clear out past relationship blockages, heal old wounds and celebrate yourself.
February 11th 3:00-4:00 Debbie Loshbaugh will host an online and in person Relationship Healing.
February 12th 2:00-3:30 Chandra Maharaj is facilitating a Heart Opening Cacao Ceremony.
February 28th 7:00-8:30 Dance of Life Intro Class, a celebration of self and sensuality.
March 14th 7:30-9:30 Co-Dependency Class Series-putting the focus back on you. Online only.
